Rule #1: Hotel rooms of the wedding party members are paid for by the bride and groom.
I have no actual problem abiding by that one if it’s really what is done, but we’ve got 9 people we’ve got to put up at a very nice hotel and I certainly hope they don’t mind having roommates!
Rule #2: Addresses on the invitations must be handwritten and never printed
That one I just find ridiculous because it would cost us about $400 to hire a calligrapher with all the people we are inviting, and I have terrible handwriting.
1. I’ve never had the couple pay for my room when I was a bridesmaid. I’ve always been responsible for my travel, accommodations, and a dress I’ll never wear again. I thought that’s how most weddings were. It’s certainly a nice gesture if you can afford it.
2. I know there are some people (old people? I don’t know) who care about hand-addressed invitations. This is not something I care about in the least, because honestly, I am going to throw the envelope in the trash as soon as I open it. As long as you get my name and address right, I don’t care if you laser-print it or fingerpaint it.