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I am a hostess for a wedding shower and I have been asked to bring champagne and orange juice for mimosas. There are 30 guests. How may bottles of champagne and how many cartons of orange juice do you think would be sufficient? The party is scheduled for 3 hours. There will be water and tea served as well.

The proportions of a mimosa can vary but lets assume you are going to use a 1-1 (common). I would assume a total of 90 drinks. If each drink is 5 ounces (common) then you would need 225 ounces of each. That would mean 9 bottles of champagne and 4 (59 ounce) cartons of orange juice.

I would bump it up to a case of champagne and 6 cartons of orange juice. The pricing on a case is better than for 9 bottles and you have a little extra in case.

My wedding is October 26th, 2012. So, I need to pick a month for my wedding shower. Well 2 months to give to my maid of honor, so she can pick to surprise me.

This is your maid of honor’s business, not yours

My fiance, our son and I have decided to do a destination wedding. Anyone that can join us is welcome, other wise it will just be us. Is it appropriate to have a Jack and Jill wedding shower before we leave to see the guest that will not be able to attend?
Okay, apparently I should add some more detail. Obviously I would not throw the shower for myself. It was something my mom wanted to do for me. I was the one who suggested it may seem rude for people that can not afford to go. As far as my fiance, son and I living together, that is irrelevant.

You should only invite those that you know would probably be able to attend the wedding other wise it just looks like you are out for gifts. It is rude for those who cannot afford to go to the wedding. The fact is you probably know who can and who can’t go.

My fiance, our son and I have decided to do a destination wedding. Anyone that can join us is welcome, other wise it will just be us. Is it appropriate to have a Jack and Jill wedding shower before we leave to see the guest that will not be able to attend?
Okay, apparently I should add some more detail. Obviously I would not throw the shower for myself. It was something my mom wanted to do for me. I was the one who suggested it may seem rude for people that can not afford to go. As far as my fiance, son and I living together, that is irrelevant.

You should only invite those that you know would probably be able to attend the wedding other wise it just looks like you are out for gifts. It is rude for those who cannot afford to go to the wedding. The fact is you probably know who can and who can’t go.

I recently went to a wedding for a co-worker. I gave a gift of money. I was surprised that none of my other co-workers brought a gift for the couple. We are all pretty close, so I asked why they hadn’t brought a gift. They said that since we threw her a shower, and gave gifts at work, a gift for the wedding was not necessary. I grew up in the north and now live in the south. I was wondering if this is typical in the south. Let me know what you think.

The south will take advantage of you if they can. Up north for a shower we used to pitch in $2-$5 for a group gift, down here (south) the co-worker who I didn’t know (the person the shower was for) was bold enough to write on a piece of paper (not even to my face) dropped off a note of an item she wanted for $30 and told me where I could buy it and leave it. What nerve!!!!! I’m not going to pay for someone I don’t even know.

when up north the family helps out at the shower so they aren’t expected to give at the shower, instead they give a gift of money at the wedding only. The money is supposed to pay for their groceries and start up costs when they start out. Those who have been working a while use the money instead for their honeymoon so they can come back and then ask for a baby shower gift. lol

Up north we used to give to showers because we knew that when our own kids had a shower or when other members of our family had showers that it would be an exchange of gifts among friends. It was my impression then that you give only to receive in the future. If you have nothing upcoming in the future then you don’t have to give unless you really want to or have to to stay in good graces at work so they don’t blackball you.

I am starting to plan a wedding shower and I was thinking about doing a couples shower. I was curious- who all do you invite to these? Its to my knowledge that for traditional all female showers, all females invited to the wedding are invited to the shower. For a Co-ed shower, is everyone invited to the wedding invited to the shower? I think that just seems like too many people. What is the "norm" for couples showers? Thanks in advance.

Showers of any kind are typically for close friends and family. Meaning parents, siblings, close aunts, close cousins, close friends. NOT the mother’s best friend from high school’s daughter. Or the grandmother’s friends from bridge club.

Since you’ll be having a co-ed shower, you would invite both the bride and groom’s mothers and fathers; their grandparents; their siblings; close aunts/uncles; closer cousins (cousins they actually associate with on a regular basis); friends they still associate with on a regular basis.

And the etiquette rule that states if a couple is living together, engaged or married, they’re invited together, still applies. This means that they are seen as a social unit and should be invited to co-ed social gatherings together.

My boyfriend and I have been living together for 4 months now, and we now engaged! Since our move-in we have acquired the necessary things- however, most of them are cheap and not "nice". We don’t have everything we need (stand-up mixer, matching silverware, baking pans, wine glasses, Tupperware etc). Even though we have some things, is it still appropriate to register for wedding gifts and have a shower?

No one will give you a hard time about it.

Personally, I think gift showers are tacky under any circumstance.

I’m going to the shower and the wedding and I’ve asked around about what to get for the shower gift and found out they are registered at a few places. So, do I just pick something off their lists for both the shower and the wedding? Or, is the wedding shower for the woman supposed to be about something else?
Let me clarify. I don’t mean one gift, I mean a gift for the shower and a gift for the wedding. But do I just choose the gifts off the same list like, coffee cups for the shower and more coffee cups for the wedding? What is traditional for shower gifts?

Where I live (northeast), shower gifts are boxed gifts, usually selected from the couple’s registry (china, towels, etc). Cash is typically given at the actual wedding.

It’s totally fine to buy registry items for both events.

my mom and i are going to wedding shower, and i never been to one so idk what to do. so can u guys help me

My favorite shower gift was a bowl of mixing bowls

I would suggest, pick something you would want and use

They have those really nice cover baking dishes that come with a carrier
That is a great gift, every time I see one, I say I would love that
But, I do not need it

So Pick something you will want yourself

I’m hosting the wedding shower for my best friend and her fiance, any ideas as to what I could write on the cake that would be appropriate for the two of them?

Generally speaking the shower’s used to be for the bride only…but the groom is very involved in the wedding planning and will be attending!

I have actually never been to a wedding shower that has had a cake. It might be cute to write how many days left to go until the wedding. Like-"only 13 more days to go until wedded bliss" I wish more wedding showers would include the groom also.