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I have 2 children, two and one. I was wondering if it is acceptable to bring them to a cousin’s wedding shower. Thoughts?

NO, is not acceptable.

Shower are adult women social events and your little rugrats have no business disrupting it. In many showers they have lingerie, sex toys, alcohol and raunchy chit chat, so it is not an environment for any children.

Either hire a babysitter or decline the invitation. Don’t be so rude to impose your children presence where they are not welcome nor invited. Just because you chose to have kids, that doesn’t mean that other people have to put up with them or that you have the right to ruin other people events.

It seems to me that the Mother of the Bride, giving a wedding shower, seems a little over the top – like a ‘gift grabbing’ affair. After all the parents of the bride are footing the bill for an elaborate wedding, and also giving a wedding shower seems just too much, in my opinion. This is to be done by friends or bridesmaids; the maid-of-honor, etc. not the Mother of the bride. What are your feelings?

Neither the Bride nor the Bride’s Mother nor the Groom’s Mother nor any of the sisters or sister-in-laws should host (plan, organize, and pay for) a wedding or bridal shower. It is a form of solicitation and inappropriate. And if the Bride’s sister is the Maid of Honor then she should delegate all of the planning and organizing responsibilities to one of the bridesmaids (who is not an immediate family member).

Just recently Yahoo Answers had a question about a Bride insisting that her bridal shower be held at her house, she wanted to control the whole event. She wanted to make sure that she was going to get a lot of presents so she created the guest list and mailed out the invitations.

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I was ask to organize a shower for a friend, and I know she is having a bachelorette party as well. I am totally wedding clueless here and need some help.

A bridal shower is for all the people that realize a wedding is a beautiful, sacred event and are there to celebrate with the bride.

A bachelorette party is supposed to be for the younger women to go out and celebrate the same thing, unfortunately it has gotten twisted over the years and some women think it is an excuse for all the women involved (some married and engaged themselves) to act like tramps and say "it’s a bachelorette party so it doesn’t count as cheating" Strippers have NO place at a bachelorette party. Wish more women would go back to the day when it was a night out with your closest friends to celebrate the upcoming wedding.

I am trying to find a large amount of tulip bulbs for an upcoming wedding and shower, in addition I would like to plant some at our new house we will be moving into in the fall?

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I attended a wedding shower and would like to thank the host (maid of honor) with a thank you note, is this appropriate?

It is never incorrect to send a social acquaintance, such as a host, a friendly letter with complementary remarks. Three or four sentences is plenty if you don’t know the person well. This sounds very thoughtful of you.

I am 1 of 5 bridesmaids and there will be there shower, bachelorette party and the wedding. I plan to bring a gift to every event. But I have NO idea How much is appropriate?! I was going to give cash or a gift card for the wedding shower. I was thinking $100. Is that too much? Keep in mind they’re 22.. I’m not cheap, just not sure!

$100 is a really good gift

$50 is generally a rule of thump for bachleorette parties. the wedding i usually view this with two factors one how much i can afford and two how much is the bride and groom spending on guest.

yeah you don’t pay for the wedding but you gift should be inline with how much you attendance costs them its only fair and make sense. however this is my opinion so

I cannot make it to a wedding shower. I wasn’t sure what the proper etiquette would be in terms of delivering a gift?

If you haven’t already bought the gift, you can go to their registry online and purchase it online and request it be delivered to whichever address they have on file for their registry. Bed, Bath, and Beyond has this system and it’s great! So does Crate & Barrel. I know b/c we registered both places and already are receiving gifts at our doorstep from guests just shortly after our save-the-dates went out.

A girl I know is marrying soon and the wedding venue she chose is very small and cannot accommodate very many guests. I was invited, but there were many people in her life who were not. I know some of the people who were not invited got wedding shower invites and there was a card in the envelope that said something along the lines of "we are marrying at such and such place with a limited capacity, but please join us at the shower". The shower invites were sent by her mother. What are the etiquette guidelines in this situation? Is it okay to invite people to the shower but not the wedding?

Oh my! Yes!! Extraordinarily poor etiquette. That’s rather like saying you can’t come to the party, but do bring me a gift anyway.

I am hosting a bridal shower for a dear friend. We have ordered 25 beautiful bridal shower invitations. Should the bride receive one, or is her invitation implied since she is the guest of honor? Forgive me if this is a silly question; I just want this wedding shower to be perfect!

Your question isn’t silly at all! Many showers are a surprise (even if it’s a surprise the bride knows is coming), so the bride doesn’t get an invite. Even if she knows about the shower, it’s understood that as the guest of honor, she’ll be there (you, as hostess, will make sure of that!). But an invite makes a great keepsake. Especially if the invites are gorgeous, you might want to set one aside for her — she can include it in her wedding album!

I went to my cousins wedding shower and paid 50.00 for a gift. Do I still get a wedding gift too? How much to spend??

You should have asked someone else who was going OR check out her registry. Shower gifts are generally something smaller for the kitchen like a laundry basket filled with soaps, or tea towels and potholders or a cool set of measuring cups…usually about $20 to $25. or even less. You could have purchased a set of very good steak knives on sale for $15.00! Wedding gifts are generally more substantial and, as a cousin, a $50.00 gift would be very generous. As you have already over-spent for the shower gift, I think you’d be very generous if you got them a bottle of wine and 2 nice glasses for a total of about $35.00… or maybe two bathsheets on sale at Linens and Things for $13. each….. no one should be concerned with how much you spent on them. A grateful and polite couple would say a sincere thank you for a pair of salt and pepper shakers!!